Monday, November 21, 2011

can i fly high?

what is inside my heart?
i dont know either..
people do condemn me..
because of my own self..
what will be in the future?
people either don't know
what will i do?
i also dont know..

try to be good..
try to appreciate the present
try to forgive n forget the past..
try to love the memory of the past..
try to think positive..
try..try..try..and..
try also to predict the future belong..
as the best should..
but as we know and i know
it is impossible to complete all the mission...
and last just be like always..
goes through like always..
be silencer..huhh how stupid i am???

am i thinking a lot?
sometime i can feel the breeze of succsess..
sometime i can smell the lavender of happiness..
but sometime also im afraid of my own shadow...
or sometime im in hurry to make any decission..
and when the time should i act..
i just like a rat which  always run from cat..
not facing and be a winner..
am i like that?
or i will be like that forever??

my blog title show how big my ambition are..
wanted to fly like other..huh..but?
should i change the title to become like this ;;
A MAN WITHOUT DIRECTION...
should i??

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Steps for Cultivating Your Self-Esteem - By Brian Tracy



Your self-esteem is probably the most important part of your personality. It precedes and predicts your performance in almost everything you do. It is the energy source or the reactor core of your personality, and how much self-esteem you have determines your levels of vitality, enthusiasm and personal magnetism. People with high self-esteem are more positive, more likable and more effective in every part of their lives.

Everything that you do or say or think will affect your self-esteem. Your job, therefore, is to keep your self-esteem high and positive on a continuing basis.

Probably the best definition of self-esteem is this: the level to which you respect and value yourself as an important, worthwhile person. People with high self-esteem feel terrific about themselves and their lives. When you feel really good about yourself, you tend to be the very best person you can possibly be.

To perform at your best and to feel terrific about yourself, you should be in a perpetual state of self-esteem building and maintenance. Just as you take responsibility for your level of physical fitness, you need to take complete responsibility for the content and quality of your mind.

I have developed a simple formula that contains all the critical elements of self-esteem building, and you can use it on a regular basis to assure maximum performance. This formula is comprised of six basic elements. They are: goals, standards, success experiences, comparison with others, recognition, and rewards. Let's take them one at a time.

How much you like and respect yourself is directly affected by your goals. The very act of setting big, challenging goals for yourself and making written plans of action to achieve them actually raises your self-esteem, which causes you to feel much better about yourself.

Self-esteem is a condition you experience when you are moving step-by-step toward the accomplishment of something that is important to you. For that reason, it's really important to have clear goals for each part of your life and to continually work toward achieving those goals. Each progressive step causes your self-esteem to go up and makes you feel more positive and effective in everything else you do.

The second element in self-esteem building is having clear standards and values to which you are committed. Men and women with high self-esteem are very clear about what they believe in. The higher your values and ideals are, and the more committed you are to living your life consistent with those values and ideals, the more you will like and respect yourself, and the higher your self-esteem will be.

Lasting self-esteem comes only when your goals and your values are congruent--that is, when they fit into each other like a hand into a glove. Much of the stress that people experience comes from believing one thing and trying to do another. But when your goals and values are in harmony with each other, you feel a wonderful surge of energy and well-being, and that's when you start to make real progress.

Many people tell me that they are unhappy with their job because they can't seem to achieve success no matter how hard they try. I always ask them if they are doing what they really care about and believe in. In many cases, people realize that they are not happy with their job because it is the wrong kind of work for them. Once they change jobs and start doing something that they really enjoy, something that is more consistent with their innermost convictions, they start to make real progress and get a lot of satisfaction out of their work.

The third element in self-esteem building involves having success experiences. Once you have set your goals and standards, it is important that you make them measurable so that you can keep score of your small and large successes along the way. The very act of setting up a goal, breaking it down into smaller parts, and then completing those parts makes you feel like a winner and causes your self-esteem to go up. But remember that you can't hit a target you can't see. You can't feel like a winner unless you clearly lay out the standards by which you are going to measure your success and then achieve those standards.

The fourth element of self-esteem is comparison with others. The more you know about how well the others in your field are doing, and the more favorably you compare with them, the more you will feel like a winner, and the higher your self-esteem will be.

Successful people continually compare themselves with other successful people. They think about them and read about them and study their performances, and then they work to surpass them one step at a time. Eventually, successful people reach the point where they compete only with themselves and with their past accomplishments. But this comes after they have moved to the top and left many of their competitors behind.

The next element for self-esteem is recognition of your accomplishments by people whom you respect. To feel really great about yourself, you need the recognition of people you look up to and admire, such as your boss, your coworkers, your spouse and people in your social circle. Whenever you are recognized and praised for any accomplishment by someone whose opinion you hold in high regard, your self-esteem goes up, along with your eagerness and enthusiasm to do even better on the job.

The final element of self-esteem involves rewards that are consistent with your accomplishments. You may work in a field where you receive financial bonuses, status symbols--larger offices, bigger cars--or even plaques and trophies for superior achievement. All of those symbols can have an incredible impact on raising your self-esteem and causing you to feel terrific about yourself.

If, however, your existing situation does not offer the tangible or intangible rewards that are necessary for you to build and maintain your self-esteem, you must create rewards for yourself. One of the smartest things you can do is to design a system for giving yourself rewards for both small and large accomplishments as you move progressively toward your goals. For example, people who do telephone prospecting will often treat themselves to a cup of coffee after every 10 calls. After 25 calls, they will reward themselves with a walk around the building or the block. After 50 calls, they will go out to lunch. Each of those rewards serves as an incentive that motivates them to repeat the performance. The end result is success, enthusiasm, and high self-esteem.

Whether or not your current environment provides the six elements of self-esteem building--goals, standards, success experiences, comparison with others, recognition, and rewards--you need to establish your own structure and take full responsibility for building yourself up on a regular basis.


The only real way for you to absolutely know that you are a valuable and worthwhile person is for you to make the effort, overcome the obstacles and pay the price to bring these elements into your life. When you have that foundation, you will experience a form of mental fitness and unshakable optimism that will sustain you through failure and propel you to success.

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We laugh a lot. That's for sure. Sure beats the alternative, doesn't it? - Betty White, 1922-present

Indolence is a delightful but distressing state; we must be doing something to be happy. - Mahatma Gandhi, 1869-1948


The first duty of a leader is to make himself be loved without courting love. To be loved without 'playing up' to anyone - even to himself. - Andre Malraux, 1901-1976

4 Emotions that can Lead to Life Change - By Jim Rohn



Emotions are the most powerful forces inside us. Under the power of emotions, human beings can perform the most heroic (as well as barbaric) acts. To a great degree, civilization itself can be defined as the intelligent channeling of human emotion. Emotions are fuel and the mind is the pilot, which together propel the ship of civilized progress. Which emotions cause people to act? There are four basic ones; each, or a combination of several, can trigger the most incredible activity. The day that you allow these emotions to fuel your desire is the day you'll turn your life around.

1) DISGUST
One does not usually equate the word "disgust" with positive action. And yet properly channeled, disgust can change a person's life. The person who feels disgusted has reached a point of no return. He or she is ready to throw down the gauntlet at life and say, "I've had it!" That's what I said after many humiliating experiences at age 25, I said. "I don't want to live like this anymore. I've had it with being broke. I've had it with being embarrassed, and I've had it with lying."

Yes, productive feelings of disgust come when a person says, "Enough is enough."
The "guy" has finally had it with mediocrity. He's had it with those awful sick feelings of fear, pain and humiliation. He then decides he is not going to live like this anymore." Look out! This could be the day that turns a life around. Call it what you will, the "I've had it" day, the "never again" day, the "enough's enough" day. Whatever you call it, it's powerful! There is nothing so life-changing as gut-wrenching disgust!

2) DECISION
Most of us need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions. And once we reach this point, we have to deal with the conflicting emotions that come with making them. We have reached a fork in the road. Now this fork can be a two-prong, three-prong, or even a four-prong fork. No wonder that decision-making can create knots in stomachs, keep us awake in the middle of the night, or make us break out in a cold sweat.

Making life-changing decisions can be likened to internal civil war. Conflicting armies of emotions, each with its own arsenal of reasons, battle each other for supremacy of our minds. And our resulting decisions, whether bold or timid, well thought out or impulsive, can either set the course of action or blind it. I don't have much advice to give you about decision-making except this:
Whatever you do, don't camp at the fork in the road. Decide. It's far better to make a wrong decision than to not make one at all. Each of us must confront our emotional turmoil and sort out our feelings.

3) DESIRE
How does one gain desire? I don't think I can answer this directly because there are many ways. But I do know two things about desire:

a. It comes from the inside not the outside.
b. It can be triggered by outside forces.


Almost anything can trigger desire. It's a matter of timing as much as preparation. It might be a song that tugs at the heart. It might be a memorable sermon. It might be a movie, a conversation with a friend, a confrontation with the enemy, or a bitter experience.
Even a book or an article such as this one can trigger the inner mechanism that will make some people say, "I want it now!"
Therefore, while searching for your "hot button" of pure, raw desire, welcome into your life each positive experience. Don't erect a wall to protect you from experiencing life. The same wall that keeps out your disappointment also keeps out the sunlight of enriching experiences. So let life touch you. The next touch could be the one that turns your life around.

4) RESOLVE
Resolve says, "I will." These two words are among the most potent in the English language. I WILL. Benjamin Disraeli, the great British statesman, once said, "Nothing can resist a human will that will stake even its existence on the extent of its purpose." In other words, when someone resolves to "do or die," nothing can stop him.

The mountain climber says, "I will climb the mountain. They've told me it's too high, it's too far, it's too steep, it's too rocky, it's too difficult. But it's my mountain. I will climb it. You'll soon see me waving from the top or you'll never see me, because unless I reach the peak, I'm not coming back." Who can argue with such resolve?
When confronted with such iron-will determination, I can see Time, Fate and Circumstance calling a hasty conference and deciding, "We might as well let him have his dream. He's said he's going to get there or die trying."
The best definition for "resolve" I've ever heard came from a schoolgirl in Foster City, California. As is my custom, I was lecturing about success to a group of bright kids at a junior high school. I asked, "Who can tell me what "resolve" means?" Several hands went up, and I did get some pretty good definitions. But the last was the best. A shy girl from the back of the room got up and said with quiet intensity, "I think resolve means promising yourself you will never give up." That's it! That's the best definition I've ever heard: 

PROMISE YOURSELF YOU'LL NEVER GIVE UP.

Think about it! How long should a baby try to learn how to walk? How long would you give the average baby before you say, "That's it, you've had your chance"? You say that's crazy? Of course it is. Any mother would say, "My baby is going to keep trying until he learns how to walk!" No wonder everyone walks.
There is a vital lesson in this. Ask yourself, "How long am I going to work to make my dreams come true?" I suggest you answer, "As long as it takes." That's what these four emotions are all about.

Quotes of the Week/2


Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell 'em, 'Certainly I can!' Then get busy and find out how to do it. - Theodore Roosevelt, 1858-1919

No legacy is so rich as honesty. - William Shakespeare, 1564-1616

False words are not only evil in themselves, but they infect the soul with evil. - Plato, 427 BC-347 BC

Article: 7 Tips to Boost Productivity Without Losing Yourself: Keep Your Promises and Find Time! - By Paula Eder


Imagine finding time to:
• Fulfill life's daily demands,
• Make headway on your big goals, and
• Be able to pursue your favorite and most self-nurturing activities.

I know I don't have to tell you ... that can be a very tall order, requiring lots of focus and discipline! And do you notice that often, after you've put in your best efforts, you may let go of that last item on the list above - your promise to yourself? Do you say you'll find time for that weekend away or that special event "another time"? If that's a pattern for you, then I advise you to start following through on rewarding yourself, starting as soon as you finish reading this article. Why? Well, let's start with :

3 immediate benefits you gain from rewarding yourself consistently:

1. You provide yourself with the enjoyment you deserve.
When you follow through on rewarding yourself you return to your daily life refreshed and alert, with more energy and optimism than you started with.
2. You build your trust in yourself.
Just as a child looks to a parent to keep promises, you integrate and bolster your energy by matching your words with your actions. Don't you deserve to be as good a friend to yourself as you are to others?
3. You strengthen your focus and self-discipline.
When your promises are backed by concrete action, you heighten your incentive to tackle the most daunting tasks ... and succeed.
You may be saying, right about now, "That sounds great, but how do I get there?"
Here are 7 Timely Tips to help you set this positive cycle in motion:
1. Actions, not words.
If you are used to pushing past your own promises to yourself, you need to rebuild self-trust. Start small, and be sure you only make promises that you know you can follow through on.
2. Don't retract; reschedule.
When life throws you a curve ball, don't let it through you entirely off course. If a planned reward evaporates, replace it with a new one you create.
3. Aim for success.
Break your goals into smaller steps or chunks, so that you experience success. Don't punish yourself by making your rewards conditional on overambitious benchmarks.
4. Go public.
If you need reinforcement, enlist a friend's help. Report in, or ask your friend to check in to ensure you're keeping your promise to yourself.
5. Daily does it.
Build in small rewards every day. Practice builds proficiency.
6. Build up.
Gradually escalate to larger rewards, and try including friends in this. Then be sure not to let them down!
7. Free treats.
As you establish strong patterns of success, build in time for yourself that is not dependent upon achievement. This is so important! You could, for example, take one day a month and use it to do whatever you want, no matter what. This enables you to recharge your energy and enhance your creativity.
In addition to the short-term benefits described, when you keep your promises to yourself, you will feel more energetic, be more productive, and enjoy other long-term rewards as well.

 Here are just a few ...
• Your health benefits when you are able to remain alert and refreshed.
• You come to know yourself better and better. Keeping current with what you truly enjoy enables you to be more skilled at providing meaningful rewards for yourself.
• The more you look to yourself for satisfaction, the less you'll be tempted to place unrealistic demands upon others to make you happy. So your relationships benefit and thrive.
• You recognize the daily pleasures that surround you when you build balance into your life. Gratitude adds to your pleasure, and you become less susceptible to work-a-holism, urgency and defeatism.
Remember, time for yourself is always within your power! When you keep your promises to yourself, you'll find that your energy, efficiency, and effectiveness all receive a huge boost. What could be better?

Quotes of the Week/1


Life is full of surprises and serendipity. Being open to unexpected turns in the road is an important part of success. If you try to plan every step, you may miss those wonderful twists and turns. Just find your next adventure-do it well, enjoy it-and then, not now, think about what comes next. - Condoleeza Rice, 1954-present

You can't have a light without a dark to stick it in. - Arlo Guthrie, 1947-present


My parents taught me how to listen to everybody before I made up my own mind. When you listen, you learn. You absorb like a sponge-and your life becomes so much better than when you are just trying to be listened to all the time. - Steven Spielberg, 1946-present

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

you



  you were there to light my day
you were there to guide me through
from my days down and on
i'll never stop thinking of you

how can i forget all that

when you're the one who make me smile
you'll always be a part of me
how i wish you were still mine
 
never will forget the day
how we've met and came this far
we all know we got this feeling
but somehow it has to end up here

i know it's me who said goodbye

and that's the hardest thing to do
cause you mean so much to me
and guide the truth from me to you

for all the things i've done and said
for all the hurt that i've caused you
i hope you will forgive me baby
cause that wasn't what i meant to do
 
hmm
i dont know what kind of story should i write here..
i dont know what kind of feeling i have now..
i dont know and still  i dont know..
its empty..zero..(27 MINUTES BEFORE)
im tired and need to sleep..
but its seem my eyes cant close...
what is wonder in my heart now?
i really want to know..(18 MINUTES AFTER)

i did not know why this song i choose..(NOW)
its might be,,because of my old friend..
my close friend..
how >>>> is doing?
is >>>> missing me like i am?
i wonder..
why i always search >>>> in fb
while i did not do anything...
even say hi or helo..
but deep in heart..
always hope that >>>> will post or send me hi or helo
am i SELFISH?

then when >>>> did like i wanted
i just ignore all that..
am i EGOIS?
seriously to say 
that i want reply all that
i just looked at the word
with the red of eyes
my finger try to dance on keyboard
with many of word to reply
but its seem empty...
then i just sign out
cause i know i cant do anything at all
 so now my word dance here..
is this can be a evidence of my my my EMPTY HEART??


love,
te amo Hada




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