At the moment, all I knew was that I felt hurt and needed to step away and think. Was I right to feel hurt or was I overreacting? She was scolding me, but what she said wasn’t wrong or even particularly cruel, so why was I upset?
After a few minutes, my friend came outside to where I had been brooding. "Oh, come on," she said, with unconcealed exasperation. “Don’t be a weirdo.”
Bam, there it was—a cunningly camouflaged version of an accusation I’ve heard and hated all my life: “You’re too sensitive.”
I’ve long believed that “you’re too sensitive” is what people say when they’ve said or done something unkind and want you to believe that they haven’t. I’ve considered it a form of gaslighting. Still, when you hear something often enough, you eventually consider the possibility that it might be
I’m not talking about being a highly sensitive person (HSP), as described by Elaine Aron: HSP is more of a holistic sensory issue. I’m talking about people like me, whose feelings can be hurt by offhand remarks; people who don’t take well to teasing or could be described as thin-skinned.
I don’t know if there’s a connection between introversion and that kind of sensitivity but I can see that it might be possible. First, introverts have an unfortunate tendency to ruminate, which can turn an insult into an infection. We tend not to be quick with comebacks, which, if we were, could help turn teasing into harmless repartee. We might—and this is one of my “problems”—need time to process our thoughts when something strikes us wrong, which other people interpret as sulking.
But even so—is it fair to consider this too sensitive? What is too sensitive? Am I really an overly sensitive weirdo, or am I just ... sensitive? And is that really such a bad thing, or is it just a thing? Should I toughen up? Is that even possible? Or was I right all along in thinking that my sensitivity is protection from people who don’t have my best interests at heart?
Now... I think that all.. Do you still I'm enjoy being this situation? Sensitive was not bad at all. I'm feel what I felt.. Sometimes we forget what we have feel and hurt someone else with our word.. We once in the situation.. We forgot once we passed the situation.. And turned out we comebacks as unkind people.. To fight the emotional thought was not easy.. Being mad was not wrong but being unkind is totally worst.. I do that almost everytime I feel insecure.. Triggered.. Anxiety.. Its worst moments where you want to believed you will be okay but you are not.. It is a moment when you wanna to stop the time ticking.. People blowing a word telling how sensitive you are.. Without realizing they hurting your inner peace.. Is okay.. Accept that.. Yes.. You sensitive.. You hurt.. And there's nothing wrong with that.. Deal with that... Whatever you feel..
Being kind cost nothing
That's personality
Silent
tH
